For the past decade, Brenda has offered dynamic speaking and mentoring programs designed to cultivate self-awareness and intuitive development. Her work empowers high-achieving leaders to dismantle the facade of perfection and step boldly into their authentic selves. Through daily mindset hacks, exclusive webinars and personalised mentoring, Brenda helps individuals find clarity, overcome fear, and achieve profound self-awareness. Her approach fosters unwavering support and strategic growth, enabling clients to redefine success and transform their lives. Brenda talks to NZ Booklovers.
Tell us a little about From Breakup to Breakthrough: Believe in You.
Believe speaks directly to the heart of every woman who is standing at the crossroads of a heart-wrenching breakup. Feeling lost in uncomfortable grief. Looking for a way out of the darkness.
It is a roadmap that offers more than hope; it's a personal coach, a trusted friend, and a source of inspiration all wrapped into one. It’s designed to help women rediscover their strength and rebuild their confidence. Venture safely into the abyss. Dive for that treasure.
What inspired you to write this book?
Honestly, it came from my own unexpected and painful breakup from a man I adored. I found myself completely lost, searching for something that could guide me to the other side of pain. But every book I picked up focused too much on the heartbreak and not enough on the solution. I turned to the tools I’d been using with my coaching clients, and they worked. That’s when I realised, I had to write the book I couldn’t find—something that would give others the same roadmap I’d created for myself.
What research was involved?
My own breakup gave me firsthand insight into the emotional journey. I also interviewed eight women, each with their own unique stories. The similarities reinforced the idea that while pain is personal, recovery often follows a universal process. Their stories add a rich, diverse perspective that I think will resonate with many readers.
I delved into neuroscience to understand how the brain processes trauma and how we can actively rewire it for healing. I also drew on research from my first book, Believe: How New Leaders Step Up and Into Their Full Potential, and combined it with studies on meditation and gratitude. My aim was to create a book that’s not only deeply relatable but also grounded in science, offering practical and useful tools.
What was your routine or process when writing this book?
For one year, every weekend was about writing. I would start early when everything was quiet and my mind was fresh. It was almost like a form of meditation for me, letting my thoughts flow onto the page. Every day, I focused on gratitude and self-reflection, which really kept me grounded. Some days were easier than others but staying committed to the routine kept me moving forward, both in my writing and in my personal recovery.
If a soundtrack was made to accompany this book, name a song or two you would include.
I would definitely include You Say by Lauren Daigle—it’s a song that reminds us to reconnect with our inner strength and sense of worth. Another one that really fits is Bryan Adams’ Sometimes You Lose Before You Win. Both songs beautifully capture the essence of what this book is about: believing in yourself, even when life knocks you down.
What do you hope readers will take away from your book?
More than anything, I want readers to come away with a sense of hope and renewed self-belief. Yes, breakups are painful, but they don’t have to define you. It is possible to rebuild their lives and emerge stronger than ever. It’s about creating a life of purpose and fulfilment—even after something like this. I want them to feel empowered to take control of their own healing.
What did you enjoy the most about writing From Breakup to Breakthrough?
What I loved most was seeing my personal story evolve into something that could genuinely help others. It was cathartic for me, but it was also empowering knowing that my experience could inspire someone else to heal and grow.
What did you do to celebrate finishing this book?
I went out for dinner with my daughter, son-in-law and two adorable grandchildren. They were massive supporters through this entire journey. Playing with my grandchildren was my best distraction on the harder days.
What is the favourite book you’ve read this year and why?
I loved Thank You for Being Late by Thomas Friedman. It’s such a timely reminder that in a world moving at lightning speed, we need to pause, reflect, and be more intentional with our choices. Adapting to change and using life’s disruptions as opportunities for growth and transformation.
What’s next on the agenda for you?
First – catch up on reading!
This is my second book so it’s time to rest before embarking on my next project, likely aimed at helping our teens. For now, I will focus on connecting with more women who are ready to step into their power. Be that through coaching, healing work, or speaking opportunities.